So when you think about life, you think about a lot of things ;of moments had and shared ,lost and forgotten of things past and present . I tend to think most of it, is what I as a person choose to hold on to and let go, rather forget and normally I also say if I forgot it then it probably wasn’t worth remembering.
Last week my friends and I were shopping but it wasn’t your normal kind of shopping we were shopping for their mums funeral .We happened to bump into a very beautiful lady called Wambui. She said something very profound that even I , in a million years would not have been able to echo in the same sentiments she shared.
´The journey to loosing your mother begins the day after the funeral. It is then that you realize above everything else you have lost the one person in this world who loved you for you, unconditionally. For those who have lost loved ones, the loss of a mother in incomparable to no other loss and it is sometimes harsh to say this but true, you would rather loose anyone else other than your mother. There will be days when you will wish for the heavens to part just so that you can see her, hear her, feel her or even touch her but she will not be there and there is nothing you can do about it. The pain will hurt and ache in more ways than you can ever imagine and in almost all situations you will tear up with each memory. More than anything else this is the kind of pain that never really goes away. So if anything, try to keep all your memories alive. From her scent to her smile and all that you shared. This is and will not be an easy journey but it gets easier as you move along. Trust in God he is the only one who knows and remember you are not alone!´
I couldn’t have said it better but also in the words of ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”